Friday, January 25, 2008

The hardest 2 weeks of my life

I'm back..................Thank you all for the well wishes for my daughter and my sweet mom. Don't click on the above picture to enlarge it, unless you want to see all of my wrinkles. Daughter arrived safely in Tokyo. She had put on some weight before she left and is struggling to get it off. (I know the feeling) For the industry she is to "heavy." What kind of society are we that thinks a size 2 is not small enough? This is the part I struggle with and she does too. She does not want to make herself sick to be thin and I applaud her for that. This is the path she has chosen and I'm sure she will figure it out.
Now for the hard part of the trip. Moving my dear sweet mom. Isn't she cute. She did not want to go. That was the hard part for me. I didn't want to be the one to tell her she had no choice. Finally her Dr. came to my rescue and told her she had to move. I didn't have trouble with her moving out of her house. In fact I'm now at ease that she is not living alone. She is eating and her meds are given to her properly. It was the fact that she had no idea what was going on most of the time. That part makes me sad. I feel like I have already lost her. Most of the time she thought I was my cousin. Asked me the same questions over and over, and was very child like in her behavior. When do we become our parents parent. In a word, "it sucks." She has been there a little over a week and so far (keep your fingers crossed) she likes it. She says the food is good and she likes all the people that are there. She eats with 5 others ladies and they are all so cute. She does however think she is just there to get better and then she will go home. I just keep telling her that it will be up to the Dr. For now I can only take one day at a time

12 comments:

Gypsy Mermaid said...

aw hun I am sorry. But I look at it this way. Getting old just lets you forget all the things that are horrible in this world! It will get better and she will proably come to love it there because she has ladies her age to talk to and gossip with :) hugs!!!

Dawn said...

I sooo understand. I have been this path. I lost my own dear mum last year from Alzheimer's.
Take it one day at a time. That's all you can do.

Maria said...

sounds like you could use some hugs
((((BIG HUGS)))).

kansasrose said...

Oh honey I'm so sorry about your mom...that is starting for me too with my parents and it gets ya in the gut. I'm praying for you and her..You have love in your heart for her and she for you. Stand on that love. Take care dear, Jenny

kansasrose said...

(((hugs from me to you))) the boomers are facing this now...tempest fugit. Time Flies. yes..it sucks.

Elizabeth said...

Becoming our parents parent is so damn hard!! Yes it sucks, but you are doing the very best that you can for her. Your Mom is happy and she is safe and that is WONDERFUL and you are able to be there for her. She my not "KNOW " you but she definately knows that you LOVE her!!
Hang in there- One moment at a time!!
Elizabeth
thanks so much for the sweet comment about my beaded bracelet!!

Alison Gibbs said...

Just remember that your Mother is in a safe place and that is where she needs to be at this stage of her life.
Alison

Casii said...

So many burdens heaped upon your shoulders. I hope you are able to take a little time to take care of yourself. ((((Big Hugs)))

cindy said...

Oh sweetie, my heart goes out to you! I hate that you are having to do this and I know it's a hard thing, but take it a day at a time. She is in a good place and will get good care, so try to rest easy in your decision. Hang in and hugs to ya.
c

Monica said...

I hope there has been some sunshine in your days. I can't imagine how much you miss your daughter.
WIshing you and your mom well
Hugs :)

carlene federer said...

glad some of the toughest parts are behind you & your mom is happy...that had to be a toughie for you...
thanx for the get-well wishes, you are too funny!
and don't worry, I'll warn you in advance when it's bonfire time, so you can enjoy the flames, lol!

Sherry said...

The difficulty of our parents as they age and the decisions we have to make. My heart goes out to you -- losing our parents when their faculties are going and they don't know us -- and having to see that they have proper care. It's so very difficult. But you mustn't feel guilty or sad for too long -- she is going to be taken care of and in good hands. I lost my mother 10 years ago (she was 68) so I have been through the "loss" and I have been "spared" these types of decisions. Mind you, my MIL is 91, still okay on her own but for how much longer? And she doesn't want to leave her house. I think part of what is so upsetting is that we know down the road, this could be what we have to go through and our children will be in our shoes. (((((hugs))))). Life, as always, is one day at a time.